Calvo says previous generations believed weakness must be concealed, for example. "It's not that we're more sensitive now, but we're much more willing to show it, and thus to set limits. What is explicit today was hidden before, and that had consequences inside us," she says. Self-harm or stress, for example, can result from a reluctance to share problems or call out abuse in its various forms.
The Gen Z lifestyle certainly shows greater freedom, but it's not unchecked. It has begun creating "diverse subjectivities, from gender expressions to sexual orientation, over having children or not, going to university or starting a business, traveling, migrating," but also environmental issues, cruelty to animals and veganism, Calvo explains.
She sees in this generation a big shift in "values and priorities, and thankfully, mental health is becoming one of its priorities. I think one of the strong points of our time now is the path opening up to diversity, which is so necessary as it is essential to the human being."
Generational ties and desires
With the end of the couple as a social norm, Calvo wonders if the new "duty" is to know how to be alone. There is a strong tendency, she says, to see being alone as a sign of strength, and partnerships as emotional dependence. The social rules seem overturned, she says, and some young people now feel they must go it alone.
Yet even "self love needs an external gaze," she says. The trick in her opinion is to avoid extremes of dependence or independence, and examine your particular needs for affection, intimacy or sex.
Too much freedom can become another social pressure.
While the Crystal generation is less inclined to conform socially, it too is made of social beings, she says. "Every generation will have some rules and impositions. Let's hope they will be lighter and as few as possible," she adds.
She also sees Gen Z as showing greater caution in its sexual encounters. Unlike youth in the last quarter of the 20th century, this generation has clearer positions on sexual health, STIs and issues of consent, dating and relationship etiquette.
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Diversities and rules
Just as monogamy was for long the rule for couples, the Crystal generation now considers diversity in relationships and sexuality a given. As new forms of relationship are legitimized, people can see the inherent diversity of relationships.
But Calvo says even diversity and experimentation can become another cage: "I think a lot of people, for wanting to fit in with society, try out these new dynamics without asking themselves if they want to. It's all very novel and stark, and now we're often told sexual freedom is the real way to love." Too much freedom, in other words, can become another social pressure and cause "immense suffering," she says.
Many people are not ready for an exclusive relationship, she says, just as others won't tolerate an open one. "The way you desire, erotize and love is highly diverse. If I'm not being honest about what's happening, I'll end up making a choice on the go, or out of inertia. If I cannot respect our agreement to be exclusive, it's not fair to choose a closed relationship. If you don't fancy anyone other than your partner, why would you think an open couple suits you?"
She advises young people to understand "their own diversity" so that they can find themselves "pacts that are much more coherent with what we are and what we can and will respect."
You must build from "inside outwards," she says, before looking for someone who follows the same dynamic, "so nobody suffers."
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