Tough Bridal Market: Over-The-Top Wedding Proposals In China



HUBEI – A few weeks ago, reports Sina News, a man showed up in front of the Hunan University female dormitory with a cortege of BMWs.

The 11 cars were parked in two rows of five, while the lead car was parked next to a red carpet running from the car to the doorstep. His well-organized team quickly set up audio equipment and started playing romantic music while the suitor, carrying a bunch of roses, took out his mobile phone and called a young lady. Soon after, the object of his attention came down the stairs and, as expected, accepted the engagement ring in front of the cheering crowd.

A few days later, according to the Chutian Urban Daily, a 25-year-old man, obviously inspired by the BMW approach, led a mighty team of 50 bicycles, each with a heart-shaped balloon at the front, through the streets of Hankou City. When they arrived at the real estate agency where his sweetheart was working, the bicycles formed a heart around the leading man. With flowers in one hand and a suitcase in the other, he knelt in front of his heroine, and opened the suitcase. He was leaving nothing to chance: inside was a stack of cash, folded in the shape of hearts.

These days in China nothing is too over-the-top when it comes to proposals: men need to prove they can provide for their future wives. Because of the one-child policy, which has led to the selective abortion of baby girls, China has an imbalanced female to male sex ratio of 100 to 118. The marriage market is pretty much in a woman's hands, as well as her parents'. She will choose a man who can guarantee what she considers a reasonably comfortable life. A recent survey conducted by a Chinese matchmaking agency shows that 70% of women consider that owning a house is a prerequisite for a man to propose, and that 80% of women think that only men earning more than $630 a month are eligible for love.

According to the China Times, a mother from Hangzhou City has recently set up a QQ group, an instant messaging platform for people with common interests, for rich parents who are looking for son-in-laws. The condition is that candidates must be worth at least $4.7 million; that's what these parents claim to be worth themselves. Unfortunately for the young ladies, candidates don't seem to be lining up. Perhaps they smell a trap?

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A Mother In Spain Denied Child Custody Because She Lives In Rural Area

A court in Spain usurps custody of the one-year-old boy living with his mother in the "deep" part of the Galicia region, forced to instead live with his father in the southern city of Marbella, which the judge says is "cosmopolitan" with good schools and medical care. Women's rights groups have taken up the mother's case.

A child in Galician countryside

Laure Gautherin

A Spanish court has ordered the withdrawal of a mother's custody of her one-year-old boy because she is living in the countryside in northwestern Spain, where the judge says the child won't have "opportunities for the proper development of his personality."

The case, reported Monday in La Voz de Galicia, has sparked outrage from a women's rights association but has also set off reactions from politicians of different stripes across the province of Galicia, defending the values of rural life.

Judge María Belén Ureña Carazo, of the family court of Marbella, a city on the southern coast of 141,000 people, has ordered the toddler to stay with father who lives in the city rather than with his mother because she was living in "deep Galicia" where the child would lack opportunities to "grow up in a happy environment."

Front page of La Voz de Galicia - October 25, 2021

Front page of La Voz de Galicia - Monday 25 October, 2021

La Voz de Galicia

Better in a "cosmopolitan" city?

The judge said Marbella, where the father lives, was a "cosmopolitan city" with "a good hospital" as well as "all kinds of schools" and thus provided a better environment for the child to thrive.

The mother has submitted a formal complaint to the General Council of the Judiciary that the family court magistrate had acted with "absolute contempt," her lawyer told La Voz de Galicia.

The mother quickly accumulated support from local politicians and civic organizations. The Clara Campoamor association described the judge's arguments as offensive, intolerable and typical of "an ignorant person who has not traveled much."

The Xunta de Galicia, the regional government, has addressed the case, saying that any place in Galicia meets the conditions to educate a minor. The Socialist party politician Pablo Arangüena tweeted that "it would not hurt part of the judiciary to spend a summer in Galicia."

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