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No More Big Fat Tajik Weddings? The Economics Of Traditional Nuptials

Marriage in Tajikistan, a Central Asian country of 8 million, is celebrated over days and far over budget. A new law tries to change ancient ways for the sake of modern economics.

A traditional Tajik wedding
A traditional Tajik wedding
Malgorzata Borowska

ARBOB — It’s windy in this former Soviet-era kolkhoz collective farm and historic site known as the place where the peace treaty in the Tajikistan civil war 1992-1997 was signed. The Arbob Cultural Palace happens to also be a popular photo set for newlyweds.

That's where I met Masuma, 19, and Husnidin, 20. They insisted they were getting married for love, “not like other Tajik people,” they say.

Beyond the motivation behind it, their choice will have a significant influence on the life of their respective families. In one month's time, Masuma’s father, who owns a gas station in the Russian city of Perm, will hire Husnidin’s brothers. Within a year, Musuma’s and Husnidin’s cousins plan to join forces to buy a few buses and start a transportation business. In 20 years time, Husnidin, already better off, will buy an apricot orchard for his parents and his parents-in-law, so that they can have an easy income after so many years are difficult labor.

No social security would do more for the two families.

Therefore, even if Tajik are among the poorest peoples of the region, all put money aside for dowries. The two families surpass each other in demonstration of their respective wealths.

For generations, a wedding could be considered the expense of a lifetime for a family. But now, the new Law on Tradition, Ceremonies and Celebrations of the Republic of Tajikistan is aimed to redirect the stream of family money.

1,001-guest wedding

Husajn Charimov, a young government inspector for religion, rites and tradition, is a wedding watchdog in this predominantly Muslim country. He appears at ceremonies and checks if everything done complies with the new law.

"Before the law was introduced, the preparations to the wedding started with the official engagement, followed by a council on the wedding,” he explains in his broken Russian. “Afterwards came gifts-exchange and mutual visits. More than 20 different rites extended over a period of one year. At least ten rams were slaughtered."

With his hand, Charimov mimes his throat being slit like the rams: "And I mean ten for each family!" The mutual exchange of gifts included diamond rings imported from Dubai.

"Like that!," suddenly, Hussein starts to wave his hands in the air, "That is how the dancing guests scattered money! As if they wanted to sow it, even if it can not grow," he says.

Hussein fixes his tubeteika, a traditional Central Asian cap, in a sign of respect. "That's why it has all been forbidden," he concludes.


The 10th article of the new law states the following: "The celebrations on the occasion of a wedding should last no longer than two days, including the banquet for up to 150 people. The costs of the ceremony are to be divided equally between both parties."

According to the introduction, the bill aims to "protect the real values of the national culture and the local traditions as well as improve the social and economical conditions of life of the citizen of the Republic of Tajikistan.”

The law was prepared by the President Emomali Rachmon, who prefers that Tajikistan citizens put money into bank accounts instead of spending it on sumptuous ceremonies that they can not afford.

Rachmon can be considered a wedding expert himself: He has already organized six of them. The video from the last one, of his son Rustam, however, leaked out onto Youtube and revealed many violations of his own new law. The opposition estimated that the ceremony lasted one week and cost half million dollars of public money. Ever since the scandal, Youtube has been blocked in Tajikistan.

2 for the price of 1

Madina has three children, a good job in a NGO and liberal views on marriage. In her notebook, she draws for me a traditional timetable of marriage-related ceremonies. Then, she crosses out two-thirds of them.

“This is not necessary … Neither is this … and those ceremonies after the wedding: useless,” she says. “Honestly, the new law was like a relief to me. I organized my daughter's wedding the way I wanted to, not like others did.”

She admits, though, that the wedding bill is not respected by everybody. “There are people who prefer to pay a fine,” she says; depending on the profession of the groom, it may be up to 9,000 somonis (about $1,700), the equivalent of one year and a half of a good local salary. “There are also ways to get around the law,” adds Madina. “For example, if you organize a circumcision and a wedding the same day, you gain 60 guests.”

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The True Horrors Behind 7 Haunted Locations Around The World

With Halloween arriving, we have dug up the would-be ghosts of documented evil and bloodshed from the past.

Inside Poveglia Island's abandoned asylum

Laure Gautherin and Carl-Johan Karlsson

When Hallows Eve was first introduced as a Celtic festival some 2,000 years ago, bonfires and costumes were seen as a legitimate way to ward off ghosts and evil spirits. Today of course, with science and logic being real ghostbusters, spine-chilling tales of haunted forests, abandoned asylums and deserted graveyards have rather become a way to add some mystery and suspense to our lives.

And yet there are still spooky places around the world that have something more than legend attached to them. From Spain to Uzbekistan and Australia, these locations prove that haunting lore is sometimes rooted in very real, and often terrible events.

Shahr-e Gholghola, City of Screams - Afghanistan

photo of  ruins of Shahr-e Gholghola,

The ruins of Shahr-e Gholghola, the City of Screams, in Afghanistan

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According to locals, ghosts from this ancient royal citadel located in the Valley of Bamyan, 150 miles northwest of Kabul, have been screaming for 800 years. You can hear them from miles away, at twilight, when they relive their massacre.

In the spring 1221, the fortress built by Buddhist Ghorids in the 6th century became the theater of the final battle between Jalal ad-Din Mingburnu, last ruler of the Khwarezmian Empire, and the Mongol Horde led by Genghis Khan. It is said that Khan's beloved grandson, Mutakhan, had been killed on his mission to sack Bamyan. To avenge him, the Mongol leader went himself and ordered to kill every living creature in the city, children included.

The ruins today bear the name of Shahr-e Gholghola, meaning City of Screams or City of Sorrows. The archeological site, rich in Afghan history, is open to the public and though its remaining walls stay quiet during the day, locals say that the night brings the echoes of fear and agony. Others claim the place comes back to life eight centuries ago, and one can hear the bustle of the city and people calling each other.

Gettysburg, Civil War battlefield - U.S.

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View of the battlefields from Little Round Top, Gettysburg, PA, USA

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Even ghosts non-believers agree there is something eerie about Gettysbury. The city in the state of Pennsylvania is now one of the most popular destinations in the U.S. for spirits and paranormal activities sight-seeing; and many visitors report they witness exactly what they came for: sounds of drums and gunshots, spooky encounters and camera malfunctions in one specific spot… just to name a few!

The Battle of Gettysburg, for which President Abraham Lincoln wrote his best known public address, is considered a turning point in the Civil War that led to the Union's victory. It lasted three days, from July 1st to July 3rd, 1863, but it accounts for the worst casualties of the entire conflict, with 23,000 on the Union side (3,100 men killed) and 28,000 for the Confederates (including 3,900 deaths). Thousands of soldiers were buried on the battlefield in mass graves - without proper rites, legend says - before being relocated to the National Military Park Cemetery for the Unionists.

Since then, legend has it, their restless souls wander, unaware the war has ended. You can find them everywhere, on the battlefield or in the town's preserved Inns and hotels turned into field hospitals back then.

Belchite, Civil War massacre - Spain

photo of sunset of old Belchite

Old Belchite, Spain

Belchite Town Council


Shy lost souls wandering and briefly appearing in front of visitors, unexplainable forces attracting some to specific places of the town, recorded noises of planes, gunshots and bombs, like forever echoes of a drama which left an open wound in Spanish history…

That wound, still unhealed, is the Spanish Civil War; and at its height in 1937, Belchite village, located in the Zaragoza Province in the northeast of Spain, represented a strategic objective of the Republican forces to take over the nearby capital city of Zaragoza.

Instead of being a simple step in their operation, it became the field of an intense battle opposing the loyalist army and that of General Francisco Franco's. Between August 24 and September 6, more than 5,000 people were killed, including half of Belchite's population. The town was left in rubble. As a way to illustrate the Republicans' violence, Franco decided to leave the old town in ruins and build a new Belchite nearby. All the survivors were relocated there, but they had to wait 15 years for it to be complete.

If nothing particular happens in new Belchite, home to around 1,500 residents, the remains of old Belchite offer their share of chilling ghost stories. Some visitors say they felt a presence, someone watching them, sudden change of temperatures and strange sounds. The ruins of the old village have been used as a film set for Terry Gilliam's The Adventures of Baron Munchausen - with the crew reporting the apparition of two women dressed in period costumes - and Guillermo del Toro's Pan's Labyrinth. And in October 1986, members of the television program "Cuarta Dimensión" (the 4th dimension) spent a night in Belchite and came back with some spooky recordings of war sounds.

Gur Emir, a conquerer’s mausoleum - Uzbekistan

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Gur Emir (Tomb of Timur) in Samarkand, Uzbekistan

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The news echoed through the streets and bazaars of Samarkand: "The Russian expedition will open the tomb of Tamerlane the Great. It will be our curse!" It was June 1941, and a small team of Soviet researchers began excavations in the Gur-Emir mausoleum in southeastern Uzbekistan.

The aim was to prove that the remains in the tomb did in fact belong to Tamerlane — the infamous 14th-century conqueror and first ruler of the Timurid dynasty who some historians say massacred 1% of the world's population in 1360.

Still, on June 20, despite protests from local residents and Muslim clergy, Tamerlame's tomb was cracked open — marked with the inscription: "When I Rise From the Dead, The World Shall Tremble."

Only two days later, Nazi Germany invaded the Soviet Union, with the people of Samarkand linking it to the disturbing of Tamerlane's peace. Amid local protests, the excavation was immediately wrapped up and the remains of the Turkish/Mongol conqueror were sent to Moscow. The turning point in the war came with the victory in the Battle of Stalingrad — only a month after a superstitious Stalin ordered the return of Tamerlane's remains to Samarkand where the former emperor was re-buried with full honors.

Gamla Stan, a royal massacre - Sweden

a photo of The red house of Gamla Stan, Stockholm, Sweden

The red house of Gamla Stan, Stockholm, Sweden

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After Danish King Kristian II successfully invaded Sweden and was anointed King in November 1520, the new ruler called Swedish leaders to join for festivities at the royal palace in Stockholm. At dusk, after three days of wine, beer and spectacles, Danish soldiers carrying lanterns and torches entered the great hall and imprisoned the gathered nobles who were considered potential opponents of the Danish king. In the days that followed, 92 people were swiftly sentenced to death, and either hanged or beheaded on Stortorget, the main square in Gamla Stan (Old Town).

Until this day, the Stockholm Bloodbath is considered one of the most brutal events in Scandinavian history, and some people have reported visions of blood flowing across the cobblestoned square in early November. A little over a century later, a red house on the square was rebuilt as a monument for the executed — fitted with 92 white stones for each slain man. Legend has it that should one of the stones be removed, the ghost of the represented will rise from the dead and haunt the streets of Stockholm for all eternity.

Port Arthur, gruesome prison - Australia

a photo of ort Arthur Prison Settlement, Tasmania, Australia

Port Arthur Prison Settlement, Tasmania, Australia

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During its 47-year history as a penal settlement, Port Arthur in southern Tasmania earned a reputation as one of the most notorious prisons in the British Empire. The institution — known for a brutal slavery system and punishment of the most hardened criminals sent from the motherland— claimed the lives of more than 1,000 inmates until its closure in 1877.

Since then, documented stories have spanned the paranormal gamut: poltergeist prisoners terrorizing visitors, weeping children roaming the port and tourists running into a weeping 'lady in blue' (apparently the spirit of a woman who died in childbirth). The museum even has an 'incidence form' ready for anyone wanting to report an otherworldly event.

Poveglia Island, plague victims - Italy

a photo of Poveglia Island, Italy

Poveglia Island, Italy

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Located off the coast of Venice and Lido, Poveglia sadly reunites all the classical elements of a horror movie: plagues, mass burial ground and mental institute (from the 1920's).

During the bubonic plague and other subsequent pandemics, the island served as a quarantine station for the sick and anyone showing any signs of what could be Black Death contamination. Some 160,000 victims are thought to have died there and the seven acres of land became a mass burial ground so full that it is said that human ash makes up more than 50% of Poveglia's soil.

In 1922 a retirement home for the elderly — used as a clandestine mental institution— opened on the island and with it a fair amount of rumors involving torture of patients. The hospital and consequently the whole island was closed in 1968, leaving all the dead trapped off-land.

Poveglia's terrifying past earned it the nickname of 'Island of Ghosts'. Despite being strictly off-limits to visitors, the site has been attracting paranormal activity hunters looking for the apparition of lost and angry souls. The island would be so evil that some locals say that when an evil person dies, he wakes up in Poveglia, another kind of hell.

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