'Aging Boomer Seeks Roommate' - French Find Hip Alternatives To Nursing Homes

Whether it is to avoid the nursing home, loneliness or rising rents, co-housing is the new trend for a generation of baby-boomers staring at 60 and beyond.

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Laure Belot

Joëlle remembers the exact moment when she first had the idea: "I was out in the sun at my friend Marie's when the telephone rang. My 80-year-old father had just fallen at home." It was mid-July 2008 and Joëlle would have to manage her father's hospitalization from 800 kilometers away -- and the doctors were quick to suggest placing him in a nursing home.

The initial emergency over, the two friends discussed the situation. "We agreed that we didn't want our children to have to go through the same thing," remembers Joëlle. "Marie then talked about her country house near Aix-en-Provence. "We both looked at each other and decided that living together was something to think about."

Four years later, that casual conversation had turned into a real project. Joëlle and Marie, now 52 and 54 respectively, got their husbands involved in the adventure, Léon, 57, and Jacques, 62, and then Cécile, 58, and Jean, 62. They all plan to move into the country house together. "In 5 or 10 years, when we are all retired," explains Joelle, "that gives us time to get prepared."

This unconventional but pragmatic solution is happening all over France – dozens of house-shares have already been created, and they are giving food for thought to many in their 60s, 70s and 80s.

There are many reasons why this idea is gaining ground: some seniors don't want to go to a nursing home while others can't cope with the solitude of living alone, or cannot afford to do so; and for other people, the focus is to shield their children from having to deal with the issue of nursing homes and such.

According to Yankel Fijalkow, urban sociologist and author of "Sociologie du Logement" Sociology of Housing, "House-sharing for the elderly is a sort of group response to the ambient individualism." Fijalkow says. "It is part of the same phenomenon as co-housing – houses with shared facilities – in Northern Europe and the United States or housing cooperatives. Faced by the fragility of the family unit, a desire emerges to recreate a quasi-family."

But Fijalkow adds: "Let's not be idealistic. Accommodation is expensive, and this is mostly a commercial transaction. With the current changes in family models, we go from being part of a couple to living on our own or in a house-share. People are flexible and adapt when the housing market is prohibitively expensive."

More than 5000 people have registered on since its creation in March 2009: a perfect example of this think-outside-the-box solution. The site's founder, Pierre Lelal says that of the 1,500 members who are currently active, most are women between 50 and 60-years-old.

There is similar excitement surrounding the newer website as well. "Without any publicity, 500 people have placed an advertisement in the last year," says its creator, Jean-Michel Thomas. Since January, even the student market specialist is offering a senior service with 500 offers currently online.

Old friendships, new dynamics

This system is being adopted all over Europe. Colocation Seniors, an organization in the western French city of Nantes was inspired by a similar project in Belgium, and has already helped dozens of seniors set up house-shares in the last three years, offering continuing support even after the house-share has been organized.

"We receive requests from all over France from people who want to use our experience to set up their own projects' says President Jocya Almor. Even Abbeyfield, a UK-based NGO with 50 years of experience in house-shares for the elderly both in the UK and in 14 other countries, is thinking of setting up shop in France. "New residents in our houses have a trial period of a month to see if they integrate well," explains David Coe, International Director.

Choosing your housemates is never simple, as 70-something Christiane Baumelle has discovered. "Joint renting with friends is delicate, because old friendships were not chosen with this in mind," says this psycho-sociologist and author of a house share survival guide for the elderly. In 2007, she also created – a forum on house sharing. "A thousand people have come forward online," she says. "I spend my time putting them in touch with other people but, from experience, women are much more indecisive about making the leap than men."

Jean-Marie Jarnac has also taken the bull by the horns. After hearing house sharing talked about on the radio, this senior pushing 70 placed an announcement on, another French small-adds website, advertising a rather tongue-in-cheek "conference at Banca", a cottage in the heart of the Pyrenees. Ten people replied to his message and agreed to take part in a role play. "Each of them had to select a little piece of paper with a verb: "do the shopping," "decorate", "resolve conflicts." They each had to imagine how to manage that activity in a house share."

It was on this occasion that Jean-Marie met Nicole, 72, and Hélène, 65. All three were separated from their respective partners. Nine months later, in January 2011, they moved together into a house in Lamarque-Pontacq, a little village between Lourdes, Tarbes and Pau in the southwest of France.

One year later, Jean-Marie cannot stop talking about their adventures: setting up a huge 200m2 herb and veggie garden, taking group gardening lessons and having their children (11 among the three of them) and grandchildren to stay… "It's brilliant," he says, "but we are well aware that's not always the case." The group is even looking for a second man to join them to balance things out a little, and they are now trying to convert others to their way of thinking. On April 8, they are organizing a "conference" at their house in Lamarque-Pontacq. It will be taking place between the house and the vegetable patch if you are interested…!

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How Thailand's Lèse-Majesté Law Is Used To Stifle All Protest

Once meant to protect the royal family, the century-old law has become a tool for the military-led government in Bangkok to stamp out all dissent. A new report outlines the abuses.

Pro-Democracy protest at The Criminal Court in Bangkok, Thailand

Laura Valentina Cortés Sierra

"We need to reform the institution of the monarchy in Thailand. It is the root of the problem." Those words, from Thai student activist Juthatip Sirikan, are a clear expression of the growing youth-led movement that is challenging the legitimacy of the government and demanding deep political changes in the Southeast Asian nation. Yet those very same words could also send Sirikan to jail.

Thailand's Criminal Code 'Lèse-Majesté' Article 112 imposes jail terms for defaming, insulting, or threatening the monarchy, with sentences of three to 15 years. This law has been present in Thai politics since 1908, though applied sparingly, only when direct verbal or written attacks against members of the royal family.

But after the May 2014 military coup d'état, Thailand experienced the first wave of lèse-majesté arrests, prosecutions, and detentions of at least 127 individuals arrested in a much wider interpretation of the law.

The recent report 'Second Wave: The Return of Lèse-Majesté in Thailand', documents how the Thai government has "used and abused Article 112 of the Criminal Code to target pro-democracy activists and protesters in relation to their online political expression and participation in peaceful pro-democracy demonstrations."

Criticism of any 'royal project'

The investigation shows 124 individuals, including at least eight minors, have been charged with lèse-majesté between November 2020 and August 2021. Nineteen of them served jail time. The new wave of charges is cited as a response to the rising pro-democracy protests across Thailand over the past year.

Juthatip Sirikan explains that the law is now being applied in such a broad way that people are not allowed to question government budgets and expenditure if they have any relationship with the royal family, which stifles criticism of the most basic government decision-making since there are an estimated 5,000 ongoing "royal" projects. "Article 112 of lèse-majesté could be the key (factor) in Thailand's political problems" the young activist argues.

In 2020 the Move Forward opposition party questioned royal spending paid by government departments, including nearly 3 billion baht (89,874,174 USD) from the Defense Ministry and Thai police for royal security, and 7 billion baht budgeted for royal development projects, as well as 38 planes and helicopters for the monarchy. Previously, on June 16, 2018, it was revealed that Thailand's Crown Property Bureau transferred its entire portfolio to the new King Maha Vajiralongkorn.

photo of graffiti of 112 crossed out on sidewalk

Protestors In Bangkok Call For Political Prisoner Release

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Freedom of speech at stake

"Article 112 shuts down all freedom of speech in this country", says Sirikan. "Even the political parties fear to touch the subject, so it blocks most things. This country cannot move anywhere if we still have this law."

The student activist herself was charged with lèse-majesté in September 2020, after simply citing a list of public documents that refer to royal family expenditure. Sirikan comes from a family that has faced the consequences of decades of political repression. Her grandfather, Tiang Sirikhan was a journalist and politician who openly protested against Thailand's involvement in World War II. He was accused of being a Communist and abducted in 1952. According to Sirikhan's family, he was killed by the state.

The new report was conducted by The International Federation for Human Rights (FIDH), Thai Lawyer for Human Rights (TLHR), and Internet Law Reform Dialogue (iLaw). It accuses Thai authorities of an increasingly broad interpretation of Article 112, to the point of "absurdity," including charges against people for criticizing the government's COVID-19 vaccine management, wearing crop tops, insulting the previous monarch, or quoting a United Nations statement about Article 112.

Juthatip Sirikan speaks in front of democracy monument.

Shift to social media

While in the past the Article was only used against people who spoke about the royals, it's now being used as an alibi for more general political repression — which has also spurred more open campaigning to abolish it. Sirikan recounts recent cases of police charging people for spreading paint near the picture of the king during a protest, or even just for having a picture of the king as phone wallpaper.

The more than a century-old law is now largely playing out online, where much of today's protest takes place in Thailand. Sirikan says people are willing to go further on social media to expose information such as how the king intervenes in politics and the monarchy's accumulation of wealth, information the mainstream media rarely reports on them.

Not surprisingly, however, social media is heavily monitored and the military is involved in Intelligence operations and cyber attacks against human rights defenders and critics of any kind. In October 2020, Twitter took down 926 accounts, linked to the army and the government, which promoted themselves and attacked political opposition, and this June, Google removed two Maps with pictures, names, and addresses, of more than 400 people who were accused of insulting the Thai monarchy. "They are trying to control the internet as well," Sirikan says. "They are trying to censor every content that they find a threat".

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